In today’s blog, I would like to talk a little about our
aging population. Marin County has a
high number of baby boomers (which I happen to be the last year of that
category). I also, have gone through this very important yet terrifying
conversation with my in- laws.
Thankfully, everything turned out for our family.
As a side note before
we begin, I also have my SRES certification, which is a Seniors Real Estate
Specialist. This is a designation that is awarded only to Realtors who have
additional education on how to help seniors and their families with
later-in-life- real estate transactions.
This is probably one of the hardest conversations
child/children will ever have to make.
Many seniors would prefer to continue living in their own home or age in
place. Sometimes, circumstances work
against those preferences. Continuing maintenance, those stairs they no longer
can navigate, financial ability for in- home caregivers, and support services that
are not available at home. Whatever the reason may be, having this conversation
is challenging.
If you open the lines of communication early rather than
waiting until a fall or hospitalization, words like “assisted living” won’t be
such a shock. Most people wait until
there is a crisis situation, which can have a huge impact on the elderly
parent.
When having this conversation, let the parents know that
your concern is for their health & safety.
Ask them if they have given any thought to what happens if they can no
longer take care of themselves? Have
they considered checking out a few assisted living facilities? Choosing housing
that meets your family’s current needs, and anticipate future needs, can be a
challenge. It can require a significant financial investment depending on the
level of care desired.
The very nature of downsizing means that the property you
will be moving to, will be smaller than the property you currently live
in. Moving from the family home can be
overwhelming for both the parents and child, especially if you are facing a
lifetime of possessions and must make the choice about what to bring and what which
items to let go. Although we have good intentions, sometimes it can be better
to hire a third party to help with this process.
Here are a few things to keep in mind when choosing an
assisted care facility.
Is the facility close to family and friends? Do they provide daily activities, (being social,
is an important part of staying active and healthy)?
How is their medical staff? Does the facility provide transportation (Dr. Appointments,
groceries, etc.)? Most importantly, is the staff kind, caring, and
friendly? Do they like their job? Marin offers many solutions for our seniors that
may not be as scary as they sound.
Make sure to do the homework before taking your
parents. Visit multiple facilities at
different times of the day. Speak with the employee’s, watch how they interact
with their residents. Often times, there
is guilt associated with putting your parents into an assisted living facility.
However, I know from personal experience that is can be the most loving act a
child can do. Quality of life is immeasurable.
For all who are moving through this process, I send guiding
angels. If you want more information on
options in Marin or how to navigate through the process, please feel free to
contact me at kfvaladez@gmail.com